I know I am going against typical Reformed teaching here, but I think that Love is not a choice. So, although I don't want to pick on people's children, when Adrian's daughter (asked if Love is a feeling) responds "Love is not a feeling. Its a decision.", I do have to say that I think she is only partially correct.
First off, love is indeed not a feeling. It is far more than feeling. However, Love must include feeling. There is no such thing as emotionless love. A love that has no affection or warmth or feeling is no love at all. Try to imagine such a love--cold, unfeeling, a love that does not like its object. That "love" is not worthy of the name. No matter how much that "love" seeks the best for its object it is not love without some level of affection.
However, that is not my main point. And Adrian's daughter may well have meant "Love is more than a feeling" as opposed to "Love is not a feeling". Perhaps she was just being a tad careless in speaking. My larger concern is with the idea that "Love is a decision", or as I have more commonly heard it "Love is a choice".
That statement is simply not true most of the time, and indeed might never be true. In my experience, I have almost never (and quite possibly never) chosen what I loved and hated, liked and disliked. Try it. Choose something that you hate--say "torture of babies"--and choose to love it. Or choose something that you love--say "Compassion"--and choose to hate it. You can't, can you?
(Note: If you already love "torture of babies" and hate "compassion", then a] choose something else that you hate and love for the examples, and b] get some professional help.)
OK. Maybe you think that it is immoral to love or hate those things and thus refuse to do so on principle, but you still think that you could if you wanted to. So let us choose some more morally neutral things. Take your least favorite color. Now choose to have it be your favorite. Or choose to love grass as your favorite pizza topping. You just can't do it.
Or, I should say, you can't do it without the proper motivation. That is to say, you can't do it purely as a choice of the will. Grass would be my favorite pizza topping if for some reason someone would kill my family if I didn't. But that is a case of one Love overcoming another. Indeed, in that situation I wouldn't be able to stop myself from making grass my favorite pizza topping. So it still wouldn't be a choice for me per se. At any rate, changing or determining what you love and how much you love it is not a matter of willpower and decision. It is something else entirely. (I'm still working out whtat that something else is, but I am certain is is not willpower.)